Mei Lin’s story

“When I first immigrated to Australia from China 10 years ago I was only just married. My period stopped when I was only 24 years old and I have since found out that I have premature ovarian failure. I was told by my specialist that IVF with donor eggs was the best option to becoming pregnant.

A lovely lady answered the advertisement I put in a parenting magazine and agreed to be our egg donor. We tried twice with egg pick-up and fertilisation but were unsuccessful.

After that, a friend of mine who already had a baby agreed to donate her eggs. There were lots of considerations for my husband, me and my friend in this situation and the three of us met with the WFC counsellor to talk it through. This helped us answer a lot of our questions.

We managed to fertilise 9 eggs and then I underwent embryo transfer. We tried 5 or 6 times and then with one of the last four embryos I became pregnant with my baby boy.

At the beginning of our journey, I thought it may be too difficult but I told myself I needed to focus and keep in mind how much I really wanted a baby. I found the 14 days waiting period very frustrating and didn’t know what to do. I spent a lot of time lying in bed because I thought if I stood up, it would all drop out. Now I know that was silly.

My friend has agreed to help us again so when she is ready, we will try for a little brother or sister for my son. He is the only grandchild of four doting Chinese grandparents and I don’t want him to get too spoilt.“

Mei Lin *, 35, used an oocyte (egg) donor in order to have her son and is considering undergoing future treatment for another child

Please note this statement is the opinion of a real individual who has undergone IVF treatment at Westmead Fertility Centre. Individual results will vary from person to person.

*Name has been changed for privacy

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